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Parenting- One Of The Biggest Scams In India


Parenting

What if I say Indian Parents are becoming the reason for their children's failure?

What if the way children are being brought up isn’t right?

Are the parents misunderstood or just plain wrong?


According to a survey report by The Indian Express, 49% of Indian youth fear or are uncomfortable with sharing their feelings with their parents. And this number increases day by day.


In India, the mentality of parents has become of a computer program where you give some input and desire a particular output. The parents now think that giving the child what it needs or what he/she requires is enough in the name of parenting. Sending to a good school, taking care of his/her health, etc is what parenting means.


When questioned, there is a fixed response of I did so much for your sake, but the chief point that they tend to forget is that it was them in the first place who decided to bring a new life into this world. So, it’s their duty to fulfill the child’s everyday needs. The Indian Parenting system has changed over the years and a slight Western influence is not responsible for that.


Earlier children were sent to Gurukuls from an early age where they had their complete physical, social, and mental development. Now, the blind love of parents for their children has led them to make their child day scholars with their robust pressure on their child’s academics and not the extracurriculars, which leads to a semi-average development of a child. Another reason for the child to be mentally disturbed is the environment in the household.


According to the Indian National Parenting Survey, 24% of children experienced emotional abuse, 18% were physically abused, 17% were sexually abused, 28% grew up in a household where they felt that they weren’t loved and 11% grew up with one or both depressed parents.



Parents cannot communicate with their wards well because they never tried to do so when the ward was young, resulting in a disbalance of mental health in the later years of the ward when he comes in contact with the real world. The parents of India still don’t understand the words depression and anxiety. According to them, it wasn’t there when they were children but we say it was there, but since there wasn’t better communication, they didn't know what it was called. Children of India are committing suicide because of depression, which was led by their parents not understanding them. According to a report by NCRB, 864 children below the age of 18 committed suicide because of some of the reasons mentioned above.


Another example of the flaw in Indian parenting is the career options given to the child, which is still the same in major parts of the country. The career options being Medical or engineering. Also, we can add CA to the list now. Not only that, if a child realizes that his career option isn’t right and wants to change it, the reply he gets is that he’s being scared, ridiculous, and whatnot.


To sum up Indian parenting in a few words:- Too much rigid, comparing with other children, poor communication, focus only on academics, and seeing failure as a bad thing. When instead of focusing on their own child, parents start focusing on society and its stereotypical norms, that’s when things start to go haywire.


In the end, there’s always time to improve. India is a growing country. With the change of generations comes a change of ideas, and people either fall into those gaps or bridge those gaps. Following the old parenting techniques, but with a modern touch focusing on the overall development of the child, will lead to miraculous results.


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